Conversation in the preparatory group: “What is etiquette?”
Conversation in the preparatory group: “What is Etiquette?”
Target
: remind children to observe basic rules of politeness and rules of behavior in the company of other people. To instill in children the ability to look dignified and feel confident. Help children learn norms of behavior that should become a habit.
Materials and equipment
: Illustration of a conversation with children on the screen of multimedia equipment.
GCD move:
-Guys, today we will talk about etiquette. This is a new word for you. Let's pronounce it:
— Etiquette (children repeat)
I will try to explain to you what it means with the help of poems:
What is etiquette - We should know from childhood. These are norms of behavior: How to go to a birthday party? How to meet? As it is? How to call? How to get up? How to sit down? How to greet an adult? There are many different questions. And this very etiquette gives the answer to them.
(A. Usachev)
- A person does not live alone. He lives among other people - in society. Once upon a time in ancient times, people looked different than they do now, and their habits were different. But time goes by, people change. Their lives and behavior change, and their idea of what is good and bad also changes. What is accepted in society and what is not accepted.
Etiquette is also changing. After all, etiquette is the rules of behavior in society. Nobody came up with it. It’s just that most people now believe that they should behave one way and not another.
There are, of course, special rules of behavior, for example, court etiquette. Diplomatic etiquette.
But we will talk about everyday etiquette for simple, well-mannered people, that is, about the rules of politeness. A truly well-mannered person thinks politely, knows how to sympathize, and will help the weak not in order to seem good, but because he understands that it is difficult for a person.
He doesn't talk rudely to anyone because he knows how hurtful it is to be rude to you and how ugly rudeness is.
He will always keep his word, simply because he cannot do otherwise. These people are also called decent, reliable. You need to learn this all your life: observe, reflect, educate yourself.
All the rules of politeness, including the rules of behavior at the table, exist so that people do not interfere with or harm each other, do not offend or insult each other by their actions. But you also need to learn this, you need to develop good habits.
And now, I suggest you listen to A. Marshak’s poem “A Lesson in Politeness.”
And find out:
—What was the hero of the poem taught?
-What did he learn?
A bear of five or six years old was taught how to behave: - On a visit, bear, You can’t roar, You can’t be rude and arrogant. You need to bow to your acquaintances, take off your hat to them, don’t step on their paws, and don’t catch fleas with your teeth, and don’t walk on all fours.
There is no need to slurp and yawn, but whoever yawns to his heart’s content must cover his gaping mouth with his paw.
Be obedient, and be polite, And give way to passers-by, And respect the old ones, And see the grandmother bear in the fog and icy conditions Home!
The teacher and the children discuss what the bear was taught, what was successful, and what they were unable to teach it.
Reflection.
Discussion of situations:
-What would you do if you saw a crying baby who had lost his mother?
-What would you do if you saw that an adult had dropped something?
-How would you behave if your mother’s friend came to visit you, and you don’t know her?
-What would you do if you are on a bus, sitting at the window, and an elderly woman is standing in front of you?
Good Manners Club. Conversation on the topic: “Etiquette, or just good manners.”
Good Manners Club.
Conversation on the topic: “Etiquette, or just good manners.”
Behavior is a mirror in which
everyone shows their appearance.
I. Goethe
Goal and objectives: Expand children's understanding of the rules of etiquette. To develop skills of cultural behavior in everyday life. Contribute to the development of good manners and goodwill in students; mutual understanding with classmates. To acquaint schoolchildren with the rules of good manners adopted in our society and in other countries; introduce students to the term etiquette and its concepts and meanings, learn the history of etiquette.
Progress of the event:
1. Organizational moment.
Guys, you will be a person of any origin, hold any beliefs, politeness and tact will never spoil you. How many times have you heard: “take off your hat indoors”, “greet your acquaintances”, “let girls go ahead of you” and much more. All these are rules of good manners or, in other words, etiquette.
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What is it?!
There is a funny story about the origin of good manners: One day, wet snow caught a group of hedgehogs on a rock plateau. They found the cave with difficulty. Huddled together - it’s warmer. But those who were in the middle were suffocating, and those who were on the edge were freezing. The hedgehogs could not find a middle ground - they stabbed each other with needles, froze, collided, and scattered into corners. And then we agreed: to give in to each other. If you get warm in the middle, go to the edge and wait your turn again. The hedgehogs agreed, they established their own order of behavior.
The established, accepted order of behavior in society is called ETIQUETTE
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Today we will talk about this.
2. Main part.
Politeness. What it is? How do you think? (Children's answers).
Politeness is behaving in a way that makes others feel good about you. Etiquette is the magic rules that help you become a well-mannered, polite and friendly person. Knowing these rules, you will be able to more easily and simply communicate with your friends, parents, loved ones and complete strangers. Easily learn how to greet, give and receive gifts correctly. How to behave at a party, talk on the phone and much more...
Much has changed in the life of mankind over millions of years. However, from century to century, from year to year, some ordinary, everyday situations are repeated. People meet and part, get acquainted and say goodbye, visit and receive guests, provide services to each other, and give gifts. This was repeated countless times, and gradually people developed the most convenient and reasonable ways of behavior in such situations. This is how etiquette arose.
The word "etiquette" is of French origin. It is known that this word acquired its modern meaning precisely under King Louis XIV, who had the loud nickname “Sun King”. Firstly, signs like “Do not walk on the lawns” were placed on the freshly seeded lawns of the young Versailles Park, because careless nobles did not care too much about the safety of the plantings. These signs were called labels, and the king issued a special decree calling for compliance with the rules of behavior and reminding them not to neglect the inscriptions. Secondly, during receptions, in order not to violate the strictness of the ceremonies, labels were placed on the chairs of the guests listing some of the rules that the king insisted on observing. The word “etiquette” comes from the French name for label cards.
Observance of etiquette is often called good manners.
“The best manners are those who embarrass the fewest people.”
What are manners, do you think? (Children's answers).
So, manners are the art of behaving with people in any life situations. Manners are a way of holding oneself, the external form of behavior, treatment of other people, expressions used in speech, tone, intonation, characteristic gait, gestures and even facial expressions. In society, good manners are considered to be a person’s modesty and restraint, the ability to control one’s actions, and to communicate carefully and tactfully with other people.
What good manners do you know? (Children's answers).
(At the door we let elders and girls go first, we stand when meeting and talking with adults, etc.)
Bad manners are considered to be the habit of speaking loudly without mincing words. Swagger in gestures and behavior. Sloppiness in clothing, rudeness, manifested in outright hostility towards others. Disregard for other people's interests and demands, shamelessly imposing one's will and desires on other people, inability to restrain one's irritation, intentionally insulting the dignity of others, tactlessness, foul language, the use of humiliating nicknames and nicknames.
Each nation contributed to the treasury of universal human values. Etiquette has national characteristics. The people of each country make their own amendments and additions to etiquette, determined by the social system or national traditions. The same rules are interpreted differently in different countries. There are many different words for goodbye and greeting. Let's take the simplest thing - greeting.
How do we greet each other? (Children's answers).
Here's how they greet each other in different countries:
- Ancient Greeks - “Rejoice!”
- Modern Greeks - “Be healthy!”
- Arabs - “Peace be with you!”
- Indians - “Everything is fine!”
- The British and Americans shake hands,
- Chinese people shake hands with themselves
- Laplanders rub noses together
- Latin Americans - kiss each other on the cheek,
- The Japanese bow.
The Scandinavians, for example, were the first to introduce into etiquette the rule of giving the best seats at the table to women and the most honored guests. Fines were imposed for violation of etiquette.
Many rules originated in the Middle Ages. For example, taking off your hat or glove when greeting. The medieval knight, wanting to show that he was among friends and had nothing to fear, took off his helmet or raised his visor. Subsequently, when the helmet gave way to other headdresses, the nobleman took off or raised his hat for the same purpose to show that he was among friends. Even later, they began to remove the hat in front of a superior person, and when greeting an equal, they only touched it. Women were always greeted by removing their head covering. And in this form, this ritual was preserved in the 19th century, without changing over the centuries. Even the kings of France, who never took off their hats to anyone, touched her when a lady appeared.
The custom of shaking hands has a more ancient history. The man extended his unarmed palm with the fingers of his right hand extended as a sign of no hostile intentions. A tradition has been preserved to this day, according to which the youngest in age or position never extends his hand first, because... they may simply not accept it.
Compliance with the rules reached the point of absurdity. There was even such a saying: Etiquette makes kings slaves of the court.
There have been cases in history when the desire to maintain etiquette could cost people their lives. The Spanish King Philip III sacrificed his life in the name of etiquette. Sitting by the fireplace, in which the fire was burning too hot, the king did not allow any of the courtiers to put the damper on and did not move away himself. The courtier who was supposed to watch the fire in the fireplace was absent. The king decided not to move, although the flames were already burning his face and the lace on his clothes caught fire. Having received severe burns, he died a few days later.
And another example of absurd behavior.
Sometimes strict adherence to etiquette led to the sacrifice of human lives. At the Spanish court of Philip II, the queen once fell from her horse, getting her foot stuck in the stirrup. The horse dragged the queen along, but no one dared to help her, so as not to offend Her Majesty by touching her leg. When two courtiers nevertheless decided to save the half-dead queen, they hastened to immediately hide from the king’s wrath for a gross violation of the rules of etiquette.
Here's the story.
And now we will find out how well you are familiar with etiquette rules. And one test will help us with this. You need to carefully answer the question: yes or no. After which everyone will count their points and find out how you know the etiquette rules. Try to be completely honest. Ready? Attention question.
Test:
1.Are you sure that if you quarrel with a friend, then there is no need to greet him?
2. On public transport, do you always give up your seat to the elderly, the sick and those with children?
3. After eating candy on the street, do you carefully roll the candy wrapper into a small ball and, so that it doesn’t lie under your feet, throw it on the lawn?
4. Do you always greet people warmly, even if you are in a bad mood?
5. When you find yourself in an unfamiliar house, do you try to look into all the rooms to know where everything is happening?
6. Do you always hold heavy doors so that they don’t hit the person walking behind you?
7. After receiving a gift, you will put it aside and say: Thank you. Will watch later.
8. Do you think that late guests should wait until they arrive, and only then invite everyone to the table?
9. When inviting guests, do you hope that they will be able to entertain themselves?
10. After eating a light cake, do you always wipe your fingers with a napkin rather than lick them?
Now let's see what you got. “Yes” answers should be numbered: 2, 4, 6, 10; the rest are “no”. For each match 1 point.
10 points – you are an excellent expert on the rules of etiquette!
6-9 points – your knowledge of etiquette needs improvement.
3-6 points – you need to educate yourself.
Less than 3 points – this is probably the first time you’ve heard the word etiquette.
3. Summing up.
I think our conversation about etiquette was useful, and each of you learned something new.
Good manners must be learned. Following the rules of etiquette will make every person's manners beautiful and the person himself charming.
It is important that each of you learn good manners and follow this principle: “Treat people the way you want to be treated.”
